It is November 1.
You either just got really excited. Or you are looking for the nearest exit to skip November & December.
November 1. To many it brings the excitement and anticipation of all the holiday feels. The good kind of feels. And to some it brings sighs and dread of all the holiday feels. The bad kind of feels. Not that you need it but I am going to give you permission to feel the good feels if you are in that season and to feel the bad feels if you are in that season.
Don’t be hesitant to bask in the fun, overwhelming (in a good way) activities of the season even if you have friends and family who want to run & hide. And don’t be hesitant to bow out on holiday parties or let tears flow even if you have friends who are Mrs. Claus and clinking eggnog glasses.
I have lived both seasons during the holidays. It can be hard to sit in a room feeling all jolly knowing someone else is hurting. And it can be hard to sit in a room trying your best to keep it together not wanting to ruin someone’s favorite things party. Here is what I know. There is room for both sides of the holiday feels to be in the same space. You can laugh. I can cry. You can hesitate. I can go with full abandon. One year you may be feeling like the Grinch with a heart two sizes too small and the next you may be feeling like the Grinch whose heart grew three sizes in one day.
There is not a right or wrong way to navigate through the next two months. Feel what you feel. You don’t have to tone down your excitement and you don’t have to pretend you aren’t hurting. It’s November 1 and we each need to walk through the holidays knowing we lived IN our story. Not skirting around it. We can love and support each better and fuller that way.
Whatever season of feels you are in, I see you friend.